Jul
29th

A Day’s Plans Gone Awry

This is what we had planned for today:

  • hit the archery store so my hubby could browse for a bow
  • go to the community pool for a swim
  • go to the county fair once it had cooled down a bit
  • put kids on rides, eat fair food, play games
  • have FUN

This is what happened today:

  • got to the archery store at 2:45 to find that they close at 3:00
  • what store closes at 3:00 on a Saturday???
  • hit the comic and collectibles store which we all enjoy
  • went home to change into our bathing suits
  • got home to realize that we were locked out (long story)
  • figured Dad was at the store so took the kids for burgers and to Barnes and Noble
  • picked up a few Witchy items off the reduced rack
  • arrived home for a second time to find that Dad was still not home
  • checked cell phone and found messages referring to Dad meeting a friend and his wife for dinner
  • called Dad’s friend, talked to my Dad, and discovered only way to get in was to call a locksmith as he was about 1.5 hours away
  • called locksmith
  • another hour and $150 later, we were inside
  • no pool
  • no county fair
  • money set aside for fair spent on locksmith
  • no fun
Jul
28th

A Vacation, A Vacation – I’m Getting a Vacation

The last couple of days have been spent planning a family vacation that we are taking at the end of August.  While we have taken quite a few “long weekend” trips with our girls this time we are going to leave on a Monday and not come home till Sunday.  It will be the longest vacation I have been on, I think, since I went to Florida with my parents when I was 16.  And yes this does mean that hubby and I never even had an actual official Honeymoon.  Isn’t that just pathetic?

Needless to say I am thrilled to pieces. 

We will be going North, hopefully to cooler weather, to Vermont.  I have a number of activities planned which will (hopefully) include:

  • VT Teddy Bear Factory - and yes this will probably mean buying bears priced to make one believe that their fur must be spun from gold — but they are guaranteed for life
  • Ben & Jerry’s Ice Cream Factory - we’re going for the free ice cream educational experience
  • Adams Family Farm - all I can say is you get to “buy” a basket of animal foods and walk around the farm up close and personal like and pet and cuddle and feed the critters
  • we’re talking about gathering eggs in the hen house, hugging a donkey, walking a llama and playing in a “hay jump!”
  • And finding and playing with chicks, duckling, kittens, and  bunnies!
  • if we go back there at night they also have Evening Hayrides Ride and Bonfire Parties – including marshmallows to roast and smores to make, songs to sing, and stories to listen to
  • Santa’s Land - the 6-year-old will love the rides and of course the jolly fat man himself, the 11-year-old can’t wait to go into their “deer park” where she can pet and feed deer without a fence between them
  • free breakfast – fresh pancakes or french toast, eggs, bacon, sausage
  • a pool to cool off in and a hot tub to relax in
  • maple syrup, maple candy, YUM
  • lots of pretty landscapes
  • grabbing of many real estate books as hubby hates NJ
  • a train ride
  • anything else I can discover between now and then

Unfortunately, or I should say the only bad part is:

  • LOTS of driving for the hubby which will aggravate his chronic back pain no matter how much percoset, advil, and time release morphine he takes
  • kids trapped in back seat for a 5 hour drive up, a 2.5 hour drive from one part of state to the other, and a 6.5 hour drive home
  • I will need to let the girls use my laptop (my own my precious) as a DVD player for said car trips to have any chance at sanity
  • I get car sick

But it will all be worth it for the memories we will (hopefully) be creating.

Can you tell I’m excited

Blessings

Mama Kelly

Jul
28th

Happy Friday Morning

I’m feeling on top of the world today! It’s Friday, I get out of work early today (2 p.m.) – three cheers for summer hours!   **hip hip horray**

I see the cardiologist this afternoon for a follow-up after the cardiac catherization last week – they have to check the “plug” in the artery to be sure its healing ok (which it is). I am actually looking forward to the appointment – I have been following a low sodium diet plan for a week now and I can already see some great changes. I am hoping to amaze the doctor by having lost the most weight in just this week (she was pretty amazed the last appointment because I had lost about 20 lbs between the last two visits).

This weekend I plan on sorting a LOT of boxes on Saturday. Sunday morning we are taking my mom down the shore for a dolphin boat tour, (it’s part of her birthday gift). She is so excited. She has never been and she just loves dolphins, so I know she will enjoy it.

Hope every one has a great Friday and wonderful weekend!

**doing the happy Friday dance**

Bright blessings, Lady Rose

Jul
26th

Shows That Mama Kelly Watches – 13 Plus 1

  1. Rescue Me (official site) (Amazon Link) – he’s a reckless firefighter, he talks to dead people, he covers up his pain with dark humor and booze, he’s deeply flawed, deeply wounded and often a prick but yet I just LOVE the character of Tommy, played by Denis Leary
  2. House (official site) (Amazon Link) – I love this show on so many levels.  First, its a medical drama and I love to “play along” and see if I can guess what tests they’ll do, etc.   Second, the sick person always has some off the wall illness that I’ve never heard of so I generally get to learn something. Third, I love the character of Dr. House (played by Hugh Laruie).  He is deeply wounded by love and by circumstance.

  3. Eureka (official site) – we’ve only seen 2 episodes so far and already we like it.  It’s like Northern Exposure meets the Outer Limits.  Its quirky and often funny and unlike anything else that’s currently on TV. The main character has just become sherrif of a town in which almost anything is possible. And this includes breaking out of our space-time continuum, cloning, and a house that gets angry if you’re home late for dinner.

  4. The Closer (official site) (Amazon Link) – ah I do love a quirky main character.  Kyra Sedgewick plays Brenda Johnson, a deputy police chief who manages to be both “tough as nails” and a “proper southern lady” at the same time.  While this is a crime drama it does not fall into the trap (yet) of being way too easy to peg the perpetrator.  There are usually twists and turns that result in a surprising revelation at the story’s end.  “Brenda” has also recently turned 40 and is still working on figuring out the whole LOVE thing.

  5. The 4400 (official site) (Amazon link) – 4400 people reported missing over a span of 60 years are all suddenly returned.  Not only are they back having not aged a day, but they all seem to have been altered in some way to serve some larger (but is it noble?) purpose.  They have powers which range from the ability to heal to the ability to drive another insane, some can see the future and others can see the past and some can share their visions with others.

  6. Deadwood (official site) (Amazon Link) – takes place in a Gold Rush camp which is slowly becoming both an American frontier town and a community.  We meet whores and outlaws, the poor and the rich, the greedy and the kind.  There is a mix of both historical and fictional figures.  One of the most intriguing parts of this show is that it does not shy away from the town’s ugly underbelly (crime, addiciton, murder, death, pain).  The first episode takes place two weeks after Custer’s defeat at Little Big Horn.

  7. South Park (official site) (Amazon Link) – yes its often juvenile … but I like it.  They poke fun at religion, culture, morality, Republicans, Democrats, global warming, video games, celebrities, you name it.  We’ve been watching these characters since before the series came out thanks to an online video “The Spirit of Christmas (Jesus vs. Santa)“.

  8. Dr. Who (official site) – time travel, aliens, quirky British humor what’s not to like?  And while in season 1 we met the Ninth Doctor, we also said good-bye.  I hope I like the Tenth Doctor.

  9. Battlestar Galactica (official site) (Amazon link) – Man created artifical intelligence.  Robots became tired of being enslaved and decided to take over.  They won, we lost.  Mankind is reduced to only a few thousand flying through space.  The robots (Cylons) have developed themselves to a point where they can be virtually indistinguishable from humans. Humans are fighting a war against an enemy of truly their own creation.

  10. The Sopranos (official site) (Amazon Link) – we’ve been watching since the first episode.  Not only are the plots generally complex but the characters are incredibly developed.  The story revolves around an Italian-American Mafia boss Tony Soprano and we watch both of his families.  His blood family and his crime family, which often cross-over.  But some of the juciest episodes deal with morality, and the grey area (that can be different for each of us) between what is right and what is wrong.

  11. Stargate SG-1 (official site) (Amazon Link) – using Alien technology a “crack team” is able to visit far away worlds and peoples.  Its sci-fi and its fun, though I don’t enjoy it as much as I did before Richard Dean Anderson left the show.

  12. Stargate Atlantis (official site) (Amazon Link) – this started out just as a spin-off but now I enjoy it more than the original.  A floating alien city located in the Pegasus Galaxy, pseudo-vampires (or are they some kind of dark elf?) as our mortal enemy, interested yet?

  13. Medium (official site) (Amazon Link) – she’s a wife, a mom of 3 young girls and a psychic.  Her dreams and waking visions have led her to help to DAs office solve various horrible crimes.  The character is based on the real woman Allison DuBois and you can even read her hubby’s blog.

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Jul
26th

A few thoughts to ponder

Here are three quotes by various yoga teachers that I came across today in my random web surfing that I felt were worthwhile to share.

“The only reason we suffer in the world is because we compare one moment to the other.”  ~ Cameron Shayne, founder of Budokon (hybrid class combining  the classical arts of yoga, martial arts and meditation).

“At the highest understanding all paths lead to the same place.” ~ Phil DiPietro, owner of Yoga Mandali in New York City

“It’s just powerful when you document something, when you write it down, it helps manifest it faster.” ~ Angelique Shofar (Washington), founder of Soulful Yoga (hybrid of African dance, eclectic music, journaling, and Yoga)

Bright blessings, Lady Rose

Jul
25th

Making Soup, Adjustments, Life

I didn’t get to sort any boxes this past weekend – felt a little guilty, but I did put my energy into food shopping and cooking to stick to my new low sodium diet.

I made a big pot of roasted veggie soup with very very very low sodium, and roasted some chicken breasts too, plus helped my daughter make her favorite chicken noodle soup, and made a special dinner for Sunday night for all of us to have, and shopped for what I needed to food this week.

I also ordered three no sodium/low sodium cookbooks and placed a large order from Healthy Heart Market for some new low sodium foods to try.

Its an ajustment – but I think I’m getting a handle on it and so far I’ve lost 3.5 lbs in 4 days, so that is great motivation to make the necessary changes.

By the time I was done shopping Saturday and chopping and cooking Sunday plus all the other weekend chores that need doing I was too exhausted to sort anything. I still have a few more weekends though before the yard sale next month so I will just have to buckle down and get a lot done next weekend (though one of those days we are planning to take my mom down the shore for the boat tour to see the dolpins). Life just gets so busy it’s hard to stick with plans sometimes.

Also Saturday was my nephew’s birthday party – he turned 2 so I had to spend the evening with my family. It’s a zoo over there and it’s always very tiring just dealing with the noise and choas (my two sisters, their husbands, their kids (4 total, plus one step child who is there lot), and my mom and a friend of one sister with her new baby all live in the same house – which is not that big of a house, plus several neighborhood kids come and go all the time).

Whenever possible, I have been keeping up with my goal to improve my health and that includes not only dieting but getting to know who I am and what I want out of life and reducing stress.

Awhile ago I posted about a writing exercise I read about how you spend your time and then listing the 5 priorities in your life, and then seeing where you actually spend your time if it is on your priorites. My priorities were: 1 my health; 2 my daughter and husband; 3 financial stability; 4 living my live according to my wiccan spiritual beliefs; and 5 I wasn’t sure — I know I want to find something that expresses who I really am and I want to be happy (which for some odd reasons makes me feel guilty and selfish, like its a bad thing to want to focus on having a good life for yourself and family). I have been giving it some thought. I think for now I will have as my 5th priority- getting my surroundings in order, because that will make me happy. If I can clear out all the junk and get the house organzed (and redo the patio that has some crumbled cement) and other things like that, I will be much happier and I’ll be able to finally have access to my books and music (which are right now blocked by boxes in the room), and with old, useless stuff cleared out there will be time and space to explore other interests and creative projects.

By focusing on the house and organizing it helps me to set my priorities. And since it is also beneficial for my family to have a more organized home – it’s not just about me wanting to be happy, so I don’t have to deal with the guilt issue for right now.

Well it’s 4 a.m. and I need to try to get a little more sleep. 5:30 comes quick and it will be another long day at the office and then I have an appointment with the podiatrist and after that my daughter has karate class tonight – so I’m going to exhausted after such a long day.

Bright blessings, Lady Rose

Jul
24th

The Infinite Light

The Infinite Light
by Lady Rose

I am surrounded by the Infinite Light.
My soul huddles, frightened in fear.
I am healed by the Infinite Light.
My body aches, crushed in pain.
I am cradled by the Infinite Light.
My heart bleeds, broken by loss.
I am nourished by the Infinite Light.
My mind screams, overcome with terror.
I am guided by the Infinite Light.
My soul reaches out from the darkness.
I am surrounded by the Infinite Light.

***********************

No matter how bad the darkness seems, the Inifinite Light is always with you.
Blessed Be, Lady Rose

Jul
23rd

A Witch’s Soup Cauldron

After dealing with some health issues recently and learning that I have to reduce my sodium intake to very low levels, this weekend I decided to make a huge pot of roasted veggie soup so I would have something nourishing and healthy that was easy to heat up and serve all week.

As I washed and chopped the various veggies, and gathered the fresh herbs from my garden I found myself humming a familiar tune (the earth, the air, the fire, the water, return return return return). And even though I was hot and tired from being on my feet in a small hot kitchen I was smiling. I found the colors and smells simply wonderful. After the veggies roasted (tomatoes, onions, leeks, parsnips and carrots) I added them to the pot along with the herbs, garlic, and a shreddred head of purple cabbage. The broth turned an increbile beautiful rich earthly color. Each time I would stir it I felt connected to the earth and the aromas filled my soul with a quiet calmness and joy. As the soup simmered, when I stirred I began to consciously stir it clockwise and added a blessing and prayer for healing and nourishment.

I hadn’t consciously planned on making a “spiritual” pot of soup — but as the creating unfolded, being mindful of the experience and allowing myself to enjoy the moment it became a wonderful way to connect with Goddess and the healing of Mother Earth, that I can tap into all week as I have the soup for lunch and even longer when I defrost the lovely containers of it I have in my freezer.

Blessed Be, Lady Rose

Recommended reading list:
The Real Witches’ Kitchen: Spells, Recipes, Oils, Lotions and Potions from the Witches’ Hearth.
Witch in the Kitchen: Magical Cooking for All Seasons.
Kitchen Witch’s Cookbook.

Jul
21st

A Visit from a Friend and an Angry Bowel

A little over a week ago I wrote about my friend “M” and how she has been going through a rough time.

I am glad to say that I got word from her on Tuesday that she was going to be able to come down for a visit. I quickly rearranged my hours at work so as to have today off and literally buzzed with excitement all day Thursday until my doorbell rang.

She wound up being here for roughly 24 hours.

We took her out for dinner yesterday and lunch today, we had Chinese food and Indian food and I am currently the owner of a very pissed off digestive tract. But it was worth it!!! We got to treat her to 2 meals “out” and I know she really enjoyed it. And my intestines will forgive me eventually.

She really needed to be around people who love her. Me, hubby and my girls certainly qualify. Most of the time was spent just visiting in general. But we did manage time to watch Harold & Kumar Go to White Castle which she had never seen. It was good to hear her laugh!

Today we went to Toys R Us with the girls to get them some pool noodles and wound up picking up a good number of items on clearance for my Toys for Tots pile in the attic. Including a fabulous deal on 2 My Little Pony: Singing Plush Minty “dolls”. Amazon is still selling it for $16.99, but I paid only $3.98.

::: little happy bargain finding dance :::

I read her Tarot cards and we talked a lot about the messages for her there and how on target the reading seemed to be. I sent her home with one of the decks in my collection (Hanson-Roberts Tarot Deck) as she had mentioned that she’s always meant to get herself a deck.  I also sent her home with a blank journal (I buy them off the clearance rack whenever they are $5 each (down from $13)) which she’s using to keep track of daily card pulls, etc.

It was a good choice for her as the cards are smaller than the average Tarot deck (“M” is incredibly petite, standing only about 4′10″ or so) and fit her hands perfectly. Also while the imagry is more “standard” it is lighter than the Rider-Waite deck which she said didn’t appeal to her.

Besides which, while I bought it to add to my collection I never got around to using it for a reading. It was like I bought it for her, and didn’t realize it until we talked about it.

All too soon it was time to walk her out to her car. It was sad to see her go, and if she wasn’t going from here to visit her sister (and her neice and nephew) I probably would’ve tied her to the couch to prevent her from leaving.

But we are hoping to see her again soon. Our hope is to meet half-way and attend the New York Renaissance Festival together sometime between now and September. And of course she’ll be here for Christmas.

In the meantime there is phone and email to console me.

In pain

Mama Kelly

Jul
21st

All is well and healthy

All the good thoughts and well wishes are greatly appreciated.

The cardiac catherization went well and no clogs in the major arteries. I’m sure glad that is over. The procedure itself isn’t all that bad and they give you good drugs to relax so you really don’t care. But it is pretty creepy being on the table and all that medical equipment and preping that goes on before the iv drip starts and then after that you don’t care what they do.

The doctor wants me on low sodium and low fat diet. Low fat is no problem, I have been doing that forever any way when I am dieting – but the low sodium – oh my goodness that is so hard. I have to give up a LOT of my diet favorites that help me get through a very low calorie diet regimen that I use.

Bascially with a low sodium diet you have to give up almost every packaged food out there, no more low fat cheese, no more 99% fat free turkey slices, no more diet bread. **sigh** At least a low sodium diet could end up being less then the 800 calories I was already on because there isn’t much else out there to eat. I am hoping that once my blood pressure and weight are down I can once in awhile indulge a little – but this is going to be for the long haul so I better get used to it. (NOTE: for everyone the daily recommended daily sodium is ONLY 2400 mg – this can be reached very quickly just from eating regular meals with NO extra salt added to foods.)

Interesting Facts about sodium consumption:

  • The Food and Drug Administration recommends 2400 milligrams (mg) daily.
  • Most Americans not watching their sodium intake consume 7000-8000 mg daily.
  • People who avoid adding salt at the table may still consume 3000-4000 mg daily.
  • Many experts recommend less than 1500 mg daily for people with a history of heart trouble, high blood pressure or other risk factors for heart disease.

This week’s Thursday 13 by Mama Kelly was so wonderful. (Thank you Mama Kelly **BIG HUGS**) I thank the Goddess every day for her friendship and support. She is closer to me then my own sisters. And we have the added special bonus of both having daughters, so they can grow up playing and getting to know each other too. My daughter age wise is between Mama Kelly’s two girls.

I hope to keep sorting and sorting and sorting this weekend to get more boxes ready for the Aug. yard sale.

We got the pictures back from our trip to the American Girl Place in New York. They came out very nice. I showed them to my mom last night. She enjoyed them. But she made her usual comment – “It is very nice, if you can afford that kind of thing.”

I understand she has always been very poor all her life, and I struggled out of total proverty myself, so this kind of comment is just natural for her and she probalby didn’t even mean anything by it. But even at age 50, hearing that comment still pushed my buttons — and I’m not exactly sure why. I started feeling a little guilty for having spent the money, that it was wasteful, etc. etc. etc. Luckily I can recognize when my “negative” tape is running on some issues, like this one, and nip it in the bud before it affects my entire mood and ruins the day — but it is insightful to recognize the button is still there and to deal with it so hopefully in time it won’t be pushed at all. My husband and I both work full time. We have a bit of savings, we have a nice home and make extra payments on our principal each month, we have no other debt. We have every right to have a day out that is fun for the whole family and to pamper our daughter. The day cost us about $500 total. But we also counted the day trip as a mini vacation. We are only planning one other short trip this year and we have been saving for it so it’s not like we are running debit on a credit card just to have fun. We haven’t been on vacation in a couple years. Yet, sitting there with my mom, I started feeling like I had to justify myself. She lives with my sister so she has no living expenses. We are generous to her with cash gifts on various holidays and we take her places once in awhile — though not to often because there aren’t that places she likes that we go (she wouldn’t enjoy a concert or movie that we go to) – but we are taking her out on a boat ride down the shore to see the dolphins next weekend. So it’s not like I’m depriving my mother either. Any way, I had a long talk with that little voice inside my head that started feeling guilty, I refuse to feel like I was selfish or foolish for giving my daughter a wonderful fun filled day that she will remember forever.

We are planning a trip to historic Williamsburg, VA next month (probably the last weekend). It is the time period my daughter’s American Girl doll, Elizabeth, is from, so she is very excited. Hubby and I are looking forward to a few days to just kick back and relax. He is a history high school teacher so he looking forward to touring all the historical sites and seeing what he can bring back for the classroom.

Bright blessings, Lady Rose