Dec
1st

Why Paganism?

For this week’s Pagan Video Tuesday I share a collection of videos that touch on the subject of why a person would leave the religion they were raised in and turn instead to a Pagan path.

I personally have not yet had time to view them myself, but I hope you find them enjoyable.

Blessings

Mama Kelly


“Michael Gorman, “The Druid” tells the story of his spiritual journey from Catholic to Fundamentalist to Druid.”


SybilSilverPhoenix “details (her) reasons for coming to the Path of Wicca and some the ups and downs (she’s) had along the way”
view part 2


Paganperspective “share(s) … why it is (he) call(s) myself what (he) do(es)”

Nov
3rd

May The Dance Continue On

I have been a bit remiss in my blog posting as well as my blog reading.  My laptop is sick and wont be repaired for a couple of weeks.  Right now we are waiting for the girls’ computer to get out of the shop and I’ll wait a couple of weeks before putting mine in to save us the sticker shock.

My time on the one remaining computer in the house is limited as I am sharing it with 3 other people and I am generally not able to get on it in the evenings very much and can’t get on it at all in the morning.  I do plan to work my way back to your regularly scheduled programming soon though – one way or another.

For this week’s Pagan Video Tuesday I share a piece I found on Hecate’s blog a couple of days ago.  While I watched it my heart swelled and my eyes filled with tears.  Yes because it was beautiful and moving and touching in so many ways but also because I long so much to be part of a Pagan community again.

I miss having a group of people to grapevine about the circle with.

I miss having people to sit and toast the Gods and Goddesses with.

I miss having no excuses when it came to honoring the Esbats and Sabbats.

I miss not being a Witch alone.

I spent a few moments on Samhain evening listening to the wind rushing through the dying leaves and whispered my wishes to my ancestors.  I asked them to pull some strings for me.  Desires that revolve around hearth and finances and a home of our own, one day, in the country.

I forgot to ask for this one thing for myself and so I whisper it here in cyberspace and pray that my ancestors don’t mind pulling another string or two that will bring some likeminded folk my way.

I have family.

I have friends.

But, frankly, I’m still feeling a bit lonely.

In any case – may the dance spiral on – may the circle never be broken – may we each find renewal and healing and hope.

Blessings

Mama Kelly

Jul
10th

And How Should I Describe Your Religion?

I lifted this from Anne over at The Gods are Bored, who in turn lifted it from Jason over at The Wild Hunt who is quoting Pope Benedict’s remarks from a recent encyclical.

“There are certain religious cultures in the world today that do not oblige men and women to live in communion but rather cut them off from one other in a search for individual well-being, limited to the gratification of psychological desires. Furthermore, a certain proliferation of different religious “paths”, attracting small groups or even single individuals, together with religious syncretism, can give rise to separation and disengagement. One possible negative effect of the process of globalization is the tendency to favour this kind of syncretism by encouraging forms of “religion” that, instead of bringing people together, alienate them from one another and distance them from reality. At the same time, some religious and cultural traditions persist which ossify society in rigid social groupings, in magical beliefs that fail to respect the dignity of the person, and in attitudes of subjugation to occult powers. In these contexts, love and truth have difficulty asserting themselves, and authentic development is impeded. For this reason, while it may be true that development needs the religions and cultures of different peoples, it is equally true that adequate discernment is needed. Religious freedom does not mean religious indifferentism, nor does it imply that all religions are equal.”

Let’s look at this lovely little bit of prose ….

There are certain religious cultures in the world today that do not oblige men and women to live in communion but rather cut them off from one other in a search for individual well-being, limited to the gratification of psychological desires”

I am a married woman, just recently celebrated my 15th anniversary in fact, and I am commited to staying married until the day that one or the other of us draws our last breath.  Not because I think that divorce is a sin, or because I feel obliged to marry as a fulfilment of my life’s purpose, but because I made a promise … a promise to someone I love.  We both agree that life will be hard and that there will always be times when we’re not head over heels in love.  But as friends, as lovers, as what we believe to be soulmates, that it … its us “till death.”  How dare anyone look at my marriage as anything but sacred.  How dare someone, a man who should be the ideal of acceptance … of tolerance … of love (you know those things that Jesus spoke of) belittle the sacrament I entered into as nothing more than “the gratification of psychological desires.”

“Furthermore, a certain proliferation of different religious “paths”, attracting small groups or even single individuals, together with religious syncretism, can give rise to separation and disengagement. One possible negative effect of the process of globalization is the tendency to favour this kind of syncretism by encouraging forms of “religion” that, instead of bringing people together, alienate them from one another and distance them from reality.”

While I would agree that the small group/solitary aspect of Wicca … or much of Paganism in general … can, and does lead, in some cases, to a feeling of seperation, or isolation.  In short, being a Witch alone can be quite lonely, it can be hard.  But it also does not invalidate my path.  Even if I never step foot in coven space again, even if I never step foot into sacred space again with others, I know what things I place my faith in.  And while I will confess to being eclectic, the Catholic church should fess up as well.  All religions that live, change.  They evolve, they shift, they borrow (or downright steal) elements from other faiths.

As to the accusation that I am in some way “distance(d) … from reality.”  I guess I can also confess that I believe in some strange shit.  Things like magic and reincarnation and karma and soulmates.  I guess you can cell them strange, but by that ruler you could describe some Catholic beliefs as rather odd.

At the same time, some religious and cultural traditions persist which ossify society in rigid social groupings, in magical beliefs that fail to respect the dignity of the person, and in attitudes of subjugation to occult powers. In these contexts, love and truth have difficulty asserting themselves, and authentic development is impeded.

There is so much wrong with these two sentences I barely know where to start.  Let me simply say that for a religion that embraces much in the way of magical thinking (transubstantiation anyone?) to call this harsh would be kind.

According to this:

  • because I believe in magic, I have degraded my personal dignity
  • I am victimized by my belief in magic, in psychic abilities, etc.
  • I lack love and know lies
  • I am less than I should be

While I pine, in some ways, especially as I cope with turning 40, about how far I have failed to come in my life.  It is not a result of the religion I chose.  I am not less than I should have been … Wicca healed wounds on my soul that my Catholic faith couldn’t touch.  But not because it is an invalid faith, but because it was the wrong faith for me.

For this reason, while it may be true that development needs the religions and cultures of different peoples, it is equally true that adequate discernment is needed. Religious freedom does not mean religious indifferentism, nor does it imply that all religions are equal.

As if it wasn’t bad enough, then they draw out the big guns.  My religion isn’t as good as theirs … they will grant me the right to choose my own faith, but they deem it as an inferior one, as less than equal.

I guess once you know that this is what he really believes, all the rest makes sense.

I was raised Roman Catholic.  I was even, for a period of time, fairly devout.  However, add my inability to understand why only men could be priests to my disbelief during the Religious Education class which taught that masturbation was as bad a sin as murder as both earned me a one way ticket to hell and you get the equation that led to my finding Wicca.  Granted its a little more complex than that, but those 2 moments of realization in my life led to my leaving first the Catholic church and the questioning that followed led to losing my Christian faith.

Despite that I have always maintained a level of respect for the position of Pope, much like the level of respect I hold for the Dalai Lama.  As a result I am truly sorrowful, though by no means surprised, by the utter lack of tolerance this excerpt illustrates.  I am offended, and a little bit hurt.

But, in the end, I don’t really worry about it as while many of his followers would name me a sinner (included and not limited to Pope Benedict), or at least a wayward soul, I think that Jesus himself would’ve been okay with who I am.

And as for God … the Divine … my Lord & Lady …

I know It/They like me just fine.

Blessings

Mama Kelly

Mar
26th

House Blessing Ritual

This is a particularly loose ritual format.  It is meant to be customized to the needs of your life and your family.  It is meant to allow you to call upon whatever pantheon you usually work with.

It is split over two days because I know that my own energy and time constraints would not allow me to do everything this ritual would require with only one day to do it in.  You may even spread “day 1″ over the course of a week (or longer).  If clutter has really gotten out of control, or your time/energy/health is significantly limited feel free to take as much time as you need to get rid of the clutter, then spend a day getting the house company clean, then another day to do the house warding/blessing.

Day One

Clean your home, top to bottom.  Open the windows and let the house air out.  It doesn’t have to be perfect.  Do what your time and health allow.  But do pay attention to major piles of clutter and clean the important items, trying to clean/declutter something in each room. You want each room to be noticeably different in appearance and “feel.”

While you are cleaning chant something along the lines of:

Dirt be gone
and clutter too
May this home be filled
with troubles few

Day Two

Take blessed salt water and spurge (sprinkle) each room.  A little goes a long way.

Take incense that you enjoy and go through each room, hitting every corner, even inside closets.

Using your athame, a crystal point, or your dominant hand draw either a pentacle or a rune of protection over every entry into your home. This includes every window, every door, every skylight, every drain, every electrical outlet, etc.

If you live in a detached house you can also go outside and draw a protective circle about your residence, walking deosil/sunwise/clockwise, again using your athame, a crystal point, or your dominant hand.

Once your home is completed cleansed and warded it is time to bless it.

Carry a lit candle into each room and call upon the Divine to fill it with love and light and whatever blessings you feel the need for.  You may use the same words in each room along the lines of

God and Goddess hear my call
Touch each floor and touch each wall
Touch each table and touch each chair
Fill each room with blessings fair

God and Goddess hear my cry
Bless each hello and each goodbye
May each guest be trebly blessed
with peace with joy and with rest

Bless each room, bless each bed
Touch each heart and touch each head
God and Goddess hear my plea
Bless my family and bless me

Or you can offer up a customized request for each area of your home.

  • You can bless the kitchen by asking that may all who enter it be nourished in body and spirit.
  • You can bless the children’s room by asking that it be filled with peaceful sleep and idyllic dreams.
  • You can bless the master bedroom by asking for love and passion.
  • You can bless the office/art area etc. by asking for focus and creativity.
Feb
10th

Nature-Based, Pre-Christian Paganism – That’s Fantastic!

 

The above video is a brief 50 second clip from the movie “He’s Just Not That Into You” which shows Jennifer Aniston’s character sitting at a table at a party in which the man she meets identifies himself as “a Wiccan  … a male Witch”, reveals his magical name, and defines Wicca loosely as “a nature-based, pre-Christian religion.”  Her character Beth’s reaction is to mutter “yeah, that’s fantastic.”

I will say upfront that I have not seen this movie and I can’t say that I really intend to.  Not because of this scene, but because I rarely watch much in the way of “chick flicks” preferring instead to spend my TV time with GamerDude who, while a sensitive soul, isn’t about to endure 2 hours of watching women bemoan the lack of a lasting love relationship.

I will also admit, upfront, that I am easily annoyed at portrayals of Wicca in modern media.  I remember being more angry with The Craft for what it portrayed accurately than all of its misinformation as the former was what gave credibility to the latter.  More recently I was a bit miffed by the portrayal of a “killing curse” wielding Wiccan on the CBS show The Mentalist .

The above video is but a few brief seconds in a movie that most viewers, even fans of the movie, probably won’t even notice and almost certainly won’t remember for very long if they do.  But I still found it a bit unsettling.  Not so much Jennifer Aniston’s character Beth’s reaction to her table-mate’s revelation as by the portrayal of the Wiccan in question.

Those of my readers who are Wiccan, or some other Pagan persuasion, how likely would you be at a social function to jump right into identifying your faith right after introducing yourself for the first time?  How likely would you be to reveal your full magical or initiatory name (if you choose to use one) to someone you just met?  Would this be how you would want someone/anyone to hear about Wicca (or your own Pagan faith) for the first time – in an awkward oversharing moment?  Would you want this man, fictional though he is, to be the first Wiccan many Americans meet?Because according to a recent survery most of the United States has little to no idea of what Wicca is and what they do know, scares them?  Now, granted this survey was done by a Conversative Christian polling group but still …

Personally, I rarely identify myself as either a Wiccan or a Witch (unless asked a direct question) unless I know you to some degree.  I do not necessarily need to know you well or intimately but I need to have allowed you to already have gotten to know me a bit so that, whatever the word(s) evokes for you, this revelation will be weighed against what you have come to know about me as a person.  I hope that the impression I give is that perfectly average,  intelligent, kind almost 40 year olds are Wiccan too. 

How do you feel about the portrayal?  How do you feel about Ms. Aniston’s character’s reaction? Please Let us know in the forum.

Blessings

Mama Kelly

Note: Please remember that youtube content, especially when copyrighted, tends to come and go quickly and without notice.

Jul
7th

Be afraid, be very afraid

Dear Goddess may I never actually meet some one like this in real life. Blessed Be!

WARNING: watch this video with caution, you may be sleeping with the lights on tonight!


It’s from an episode of “Trading Spouses” – a person swaps places with someone for a week or so and then they get taped for tv – they do tend to pair up “opposites”)

All I can say is, geeez lady calm down!!! We’re NOT evil we are just following a different path. But honestly I wouldn’t even want to attempt a conversation with someone like this.

Bright Blessings, Lady Rose

Mar
1st

Get Rid of Negative Body Image

Get Rid of Negative Body Image – Read Dianne Sylvan’s Body Sacred

Body Sacred by Dianne Sylvan

I really don’t clearly remember ever liking my own appearance. The self-loathing that is so common among women started young.

I can remember feeling betrayed by my own body when I first started developing breasts in 4th grade and by 5th grade I was in full throes of developing both a hefty bosom and childbearing hips and was put on my first diet.  That summer between grammar school and junior high changed something about my thinking forever. I can remember looking down at a plate of dry tuna and a few lettuce leaves (I was 11 years old) and sobbing. I felt ugly and fat and freakish and well frankly “bad”.

In fact I was none of those things. But after that summer I never looked at myself in the mirror the same way again.

At my thinnest – in senior year of High School – I used starvation, binging, and purging to “keep my figure” and still felt like a failure because I could never get myself to look like my friends. At the time my measurements were 38-28-38, my weight hovered between 124-128 lbs, and I wore a C-cup. I was by no means obese, I was flabby but I wasn’t really heavy. But I felt like I was. When I looked in the mirror I saw someone who was fat and ugly.

Numerous diets and 20 years later I have caught up to and exceeded my old body image. I weigh around 217 lbs, 10 lbs shy of the heaviest I have ever been. I am truly “the fat girl” I always thought I was.

(as of Summer ’08 I am down to 195)

I could talk about why I gained the weight. I could talk about wanting to lose it. I could make excuses. I could wail and moan.

The truth is, obviously, that I won’t lose the weight until I am ready to. In the meantime, I have to stop loathing myself.

To that end I purchased Ms. Sylvan’s book last weekend. 

It is written from a Pagan/Wiccan viewpoint and covers the following with a meld of humor, compassion, wisdom and honest experience:

  • self-perception
  • nourishment and self-care
  • wellness and energy
  • sexuality and sensuality
  • movement and spiritual ecstasy
  • aging and “blood mysteries”

One of Ms. Sylvan’s biggest beefs is how society as a whole treats women. This gives the book a definate feminist leaning, but it is not male-bashing. As she puts it, the men living today didn’t create patriarchy so its silly to blame them for it.

That being said, the author looks at how current culture and modern society has all of us convinced that the average woman needs to be improved at all cost. The media is constantly reinforcing that women NEED diets, plastic surgery, and cosmetics in order to be beautiful.

The book is replete with comments, personal antecdotes, spells and whatnot; all with the intent of fostering self-love and self-acceptance.

Additionally let me say that Ms. Sylvan’s sense of humor makes me want to meet up with her and go out for coffee dinner. Her book made me chuckle aloud many times and I can only image that in person I’d be laughing until I cried. It is obvious from the outset that this book is written by someone who truly understands, by someone who has already been there.

While this story isn’t part of the book, it could’ve been

and you can get a solid taste of her sense of humor here

This book isn’t about what to eat or how to lose weight but it is about how to learn to love yourself, and enjoy your life, regardless of what the mirror’s reflection or the number on the scale has to say on any given day.

She shares spells, rituals, myths and meditations each designed to help women build a postive self-image regardless of what they look like. The books as a whole encourages women of every age, color, shape, size, etc. to see themselves as a manifestation of the Divine. To believe that they are truly Goddess.

This book is truly one to have on your bookshelf!!

Blessings, Mama Kelly

Related Links:  Dancing Down the Moon - Ms. Sylvan’s blog