Get Rid of Negative Body Image – Read Dianne Sylvan’s Body Sacred

Body Sacred by Dianne Sylvan
I really don’t clearly remember ever liking my own appearance. The self-loathing that is so common among women started young.
I can remember feeling betrayed by my own body when I first started developing breasts in 4th grade and by 5th grade I was in full throes of developing both a hefty bosom and childbearing hips and was put on my first diet. That summer between grammar school and junior high changed something about my thinking forever. I can remember looking down at a plate of dry tuna and a few lettuce leaves (I was 11 years old) and sobbing. I felt ugly and fat and freakish and well frankly “bad”.
In fact I was none of those things. But after that summer I never looked at myself in the mirror the same way again.
At my thinnest – in senior year of High School – I used starvation, binging, and purging to “keep my figure” and still felt like a failure because I could never get myself to look like my friends. At the time my measurements were 38-28-38, my weight hovered between 124-128 lbs, and I wore a C-cup. I was by no means obese, I was flabby but I wasn’t really heavy. But I felt like I was. When I looked in the mirror I saw someone who was fat and ugly.
Numerous diets and 20 years later I have caught up to and exceeded my old body image. I weigh around 217 lbs, 10 lbs shy of the heaviest I have ever been. I am truly “the fat girl” I always thought I was.
(as of Summer ‘08 I am down to 195)
I could talk about why I gained the weight. I could talk about wanting to lose it. I could make excuses. I could wail and moan.
The truth is, obviously, that I won’t lose the weight until I am ready to. In the meantime, I have to stop loathing myself.
To that end I purchased Ms. Sylvan’s book last weekend.
It is written from a Pagan/Wiccan viewpoint and covers the following with a meld of humor, compassion, wisdom and honest experience:
- self-perception
- nourishment and self-care
- wellness and energy
- sexuality and sensuality
- movement and spiritual ecstasy
- aging and “blood mysteries”
One of Ms. Sylvan’s biggest beefs is how society as a whole treats women. This gives the book a definate feminist leaning, but it is not male-bashing. As she puts it, the men living today didn’t create patriarchy so its silly to blame them for it.
That being said, the author looks at how current culture and modern society has all of us convinced that the average woman needs to be improved at all cost. The media is constantly reinforcing that women NEED diets, plastic surgery, and cosmetics in order to be beautiful.
The book is replete with comments, personal antecdotes, spells and whatnot; all with the intent of fostering self-love and self-acceptance.
Additionally let me say that Ms. Sylvan’s sense of humor makes me want to meet up with her and go out for coffee dinner. Her book made me chuckle aloud many times and I can only image that in person I’d be laughing until I cried. It is obvious from the outset that this book is written by someone who truly understands, by someone who has already been there.
While this story isn’t part of the book, it could’ve been
and you can get a solid taste of her sense of humor here
This book isn’t about what to eat or how to lose weight but it is about how to learn to love yourself, and enjoy your life, regardless of what the mirror’s reflection or the number on the scale has to say on any given day.
She shares spells, rituals, myths and meditations each designed to help women build a postive self-image regardless of what they look like. The books as a whole encourages women of every age, color, shape, size, etc. to see themselves as a manifestation of the Divine. To believe that they are truly Goddess.
This book is truly one to have on your bookshelf!!
Blessings, Mama Kelly
Related Links: Dancing Down the Moon - Ms. Sylvan’s blog
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